So many husbands would rather tell their wives “I’m alright” and suddenly die than go to the doctor to see if they are alright and live. It’s very frequent that I see a wife come across my social media news feed frantically asking everyone to pray for her husband because he had a heart attack. This just doesn’t start the day it happens.
Many men have not seen a doctor in over 3 to even 15 years only relying on a job physical which is not a “tell all” story of the body from the inside out. Now while I’ve done this myself a few times because I do understand being busy and fear of the unknown, I had to begin to think wisely because I am married and besides, my health should be the #1 priority to me anyway. Many men, especially well seasoned in age, will ignore a malfunctioning penis, ignore high blood pressure, ignore excessive weight issues, swollen areas and any pains they have that come and go but come often which are all signs of the body deteriorating somewhere and something is wrong. With all of this, many men will continue to eat horribly, smoke cigarettes and drink. I get it! Many of us have some form of guilty pleasure but we must begin to form a pleasure to see a doctor and have a primary doctor that we can get to know. We can’t take care of our vehicles better than we take care of the one who drives it. That is foolish! If you love your wife and kids, being uncomfortable for 10-45 minutes getting an examination is all worth it! Don’t become a functioning sick man with sudden death on your doorstep. This is what is happening and sudden death is now running through the door killing men on the spot. Can we really be shocked by a man’s sudden death under all of these issues given? Is it really sudden though? Nope, it’s really not and no, we can’t be shocked because most men aggressively refuse to go see a doctor because he is the “I’m alright” guy.
Actually, this is a form of mental spousal abuse, especially for the wife who does go get her thorough exams. Being married to someone who doesn’t care about their own life makes room to always wonder if he/she can even care for yours. This is a how health sabotages happen in marriage/relationships but that’s a whole new discussion I won’t get into here. Ok back to what I was saying, a husband leaves a wife to worry all the time about him dying. She sees him walking around abnormally with abnormal behavior patterns but again he says “Oh I’m alright”. No one knows if they are alright not going to a doctor in almost a decade or even less now. We decline the early stage symptoms which are easier and die from late in stage symptoms that are far too aggressive and harder to treat. Cancer can’t be diagnosed at home and if ignored because of “I’m alright”, it will increase its lethality chance because we arrived too late to fix it. Therefore, we succumb to it and everyone is posting, “OMG! I am in shocked we just loss another good guy today. He had stage 4 colon cancer” and this same guy just kept refusing to go to the doctor because he was simply put “I’m alright”.
A lot can change in just ONE YEAR! Love for our wives doesn’t mean just going to work, being faithful, protecting the home, being an awesome father and being great at paying bills. All this is impossible to do from a casket. Do your family a favor for your peace and theirs, please love them enough to go to the doctor and often. You’re probably not well. Time is always ticking and time will always tell. May God bless your health.
