When my momma died on December 3rd, 2016, Maria and I arrived back home to restart our lives after a very long and stressful 2.5 weeks. Maria stuck close to me like a tick for two months because it’s exactly what I needed. She was my special kind of nurse that sat up at night in the sitting area while I went to sleep which was difficult but with her in the room, it became easier every night. She didn’t watch tv in the den. She watched it in our sitting area in our master bedroom just to be in my presence at all times.
No one can replace your mother but God gave us these good women to fill in parts of a mother’s role so when our mothers finally leave us, we will have a nurturing love that is quite similar to what mothers give.
“He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord”. Proverbs 18-22.
Be very mindful of how you treat your woman. Believe me, you WILL NEED her! Her role is huge but do not wait until you are in trouble to acknowledge that. For example: Going to jail, sick and need help getting well, taking you to the doctor, working when you are not, need a place to stay, help filling out important papers with and for you, need money for gas or need her car to go somewhere etc… Maria even wraps stuff up differently and it looks better than how I do it. I remember one year I wrapped Christmas gifts with thick grey duct tape! Horrible looking presentation! LOL! She had to redo it. Do you see how women in our lives fill in gaps of our moms just by these few trouble times mentioned? They do it and they do it in a heartbeat when they love us, just like our moms do or did.
It can be any kind of need. Yes, things do happen to us and it isn’t always good things. We just have to acknowledge when the woman who helps us is a good one and in return be good to her. It’s that simple.
When my transmission died on me years ago. I couldn’t afford $2300 to get it fixed and needed to get to work. Who could I call to get that kind of money and fast? It was my mom because she knew I would pay her back in full. On the other end, who helped me pay her back and fast? It was my wife! Do you see how their roles work in similar ways? Now I am not saying every last wife/girlfriend is like this but usually when we show our growth to them and they feel secure, valued and appreciated they become our rock just as we have become theirs.
You have to be a special kind of man to know when you have a special kind of woman and when you realize it, you will never hurt her on purpose, for anyone or in front of anyone. Your growth is the key to this. One thing for SURE, you will NEVER see me posting anything bad about my wife, even if I am upset about something she did. You will never see me cussing her out in public or discussing her in a negative manner to others. I’ve done that publically ONCE in my life which escalated to a not so pleasant level in my early 20’s with someone else. I am not proud of that but my growth caused me not to ever do it again. I care about my character and reputation. Love your good wives and good girlfriends. They’ll STILL love you, even when they shouldn’t. Thank you for reading. Have a blessed day! 🙂
