You can not be Marriage Material if you are Materialistic. Period. “How she gone tell me this? I’m spoiled. I like what I like. If he can’t give it to me, I don’t want his azz anyway!”

So many of us get reality TV mixed up with reality. They aren’t the same. You want to be like ‘Susie Q’ because you watch her weekly and she has that fancy lifestyle you are seeking.

You have no clue what the ‘real deal is going down’ when those bright lights are off. Is it a facade or not? One depiction of truth, those relationships don’t last very long, do they? Reminds you of your own huh?    

You meet one really nice guy after the next and here is where all your interests lie…

What kind of car does he drive? What area does he live in? What type of clothing does he wear? Is he a name-brand type of guy? Does he own a home? Did he come from some money? Is he an athlete or in the entertainment world? Does he have connections? Does his homeboys have money? That’s about where the shallow list ends. 

Have you considered his inner qualities? Does he have manners? Does he respect women? How does he treat his mama and his sisters? What does he believe in? Is he goal driven? 

Not once have you told him you can’t and/or won’t do for yourself. You assume he will be eagerly willing to take care of you since you’re ‘All Dat!’ ‘The Baddest B That Ever Lived!’ You might wanna lay low on reality shows and those rap videos. Lol It ain’t nothing like what you see! 

No man wants to be with an over-the-top dependent woman, who constantly Wants and Wants and Wants you to Give to her. What exactly have you given him? Oh, please not THAT! Do you have any idea how many females are in line waiting to give THAT away for far less than you? For Free?

You’re becoming an unnecessary liability. Not Sexy Nor Cute BooBoo. This can’t be your goal in life. Is it? Can you switch it? You might wanna make some changes. 

Why are you so hell-bent on keeping up with the Kardashians, Joneses, Smiths and Carters? Chile, you don’t know any of these people. Furthermore, NOBODY really cares. Trying to impress strangers is a lot of wasted energy. Stop It!

You really like this one particular guy because y’all been on and off for a few years now. He buys you all the stuff you see on social media. He has something for you every time y’all get together. You brag and post about it all. Superficial. Superficial. Superficial.

It becomes annoying but again… NOBODY cares! Lol 

Bless his heart! If he is empty-handed on a visit… you have a pouting fit. It’s irritating to him but he’s gotten used to you being in his life, so he overlooks that and sticks to the costly routine. I’m telling you it’s getting real old in the back of his mind. It’s just a matter of time. Wake up before you lose another Good one girl! 

You’re bragging to your friends about everything he buys you and then one of your married girlfriends asks the big question… “Have you guys talked about marriage?” You look foolish at this point. Material items seem to ignite your heart and no man wants to marry a materialistic woman. 

Trust me! He knows this is a major setup for failure. Sunshine it’s not looking too good for an engagement ring. Wait! Don’t say it… You aren’t trying to get that serious anyway. Right? 

Who in their right friggin mind would voluntarily pledge their life to become an ‘On-Demand-Giver’ to someone else? This is not Love. Deep down you know it isn’t. 

Love is a Give and Take on both ends, not a Receive and Take from one side. 

So here’s some loving, sisterly advice:

If you have a man in your life and you’re wondering why he hasn’t popped that question to you yet… Are you all the way together on your end? Where are your priorities right now? You could be the reason you aren’t married yet. 

Time to get serious with that chic in the mirror. Quit handing great prospects to other women because that’s exactly what you’re doing. Forever yelling this… “Oh I didn’t want him anyway!” Have you recognized the pattern of events yet? This phrase only arises when he cuts you off. 

So I’m gonna ask you one more time. Take your time. Think long and hard…

Are you Marriage Material or just plain ole Materialistic?