You ever wondered what life would be like in someone else’s shoes, famous or otherwise? If your answer is ‘No’, I would have to say that you aren’t being honest with yourself.
Have you ever imagined switching your life partner out for a different one, perhaps during a heated disagreement? Maybe… Maybe not.
We have all been ‘on the outside looking in‘ at someone else’s life and pictured ourselves in it. This is a primary reason reality shows are such a big hit. But wait!
Before you start the ‘Comparison Competition’, wishing to trade in the model of spouse you have now for that so-called upgraded version… you might want to do the whole ‘inspection-checklist’ thing and search for hidden dents and damages. Look Closely cause it could become Costly!
It’s more than what you see on the surface when it comes to other folk’s relationships.
What entices your curiosity? What makes you want what they have? Did you see her flashy ring? Did he just get a brand new vehicle? Oh, you heard they just celebrated their wonderful, 3rd anniversary at an upscale Country Club? Wow!
Wondering what it feels like to own that flashy ring she is wearing? Daydreaming about driving that brand new truck he has? Did that anniversary gig outdo itself or what?!
You wonder. You wish. You want… But Do You Really?
Y’all let’s revisit the marriage of this fabulous couple and see it for what it truly is:
That new ring. Umph. Yea I know she said that he bought her a new ring cause he wants to keep her laced in diamonds. Blah blah blah… Did you know about the emotional, mental and physical abuse that created the cause for the new jewelry?
Yet you compared your 15 yr old ring from your nonviolent, loving spouse, to this ‘peace-offering-piece of metal’ that was bought to pacify bruises and black eyes concealed with the finest makeup money can buy. Which description exemplifies love to you?
Let’s see. What’s next? Ok. His brand new fancy vehicle. You’re driving a truck you have owned for over 10 years which could stand a new paint job. It also betrays your trust every 6 to 8 months now because something ends up in need of repair. Thinking to yourself, what are you and your wife doing so wrong? They seem to have the best of everything over there.
You often notice the other guy jump in his shiny, souped up, 2017 truck and back out of his driveway. Here’s what you can’t see… the arguments he has with his wife over finances. She told him they couldn’t afford a new car-note on top of the piling bills. So What! He doesn’t care. He bought it anyway. The tension is thick in their home.
From across the street, you have no clue that the driveway he backed out of is connected to a house that’s one step away from bank repossession. All your eyes can see is his up-to-date versus your out-dated. Would you rather have contentment with your wife and ride in a debt-free truck or argue while preparing to utilize the new one as your homeless shelter? Decisions, decisions.
Alright. What we got? That 3rd anniversary party they had. You’re guessing it must have been so nice, considering the source is that new power couple. You’re headed toward 20 happy years together, yet you wonder… why haven’t you ever had such an extravagant party to celebrate your love like this with amazing friends like theirs?
Should you be jealous? Keep reading before you answer.
Have you looked deeper into what you think you see on the surface? Did you see them at their 3 year anniversary party? OMG! Let’s recap the event.
This gig was a phony charade just for show! Their body language indicated no marital connection at all. Where did he keep slipping off to? Why was she in the corner all night with her close friends? Where was the love?
Those same friends kept saying… they don’t see how this BS has lasted for 3 years. Whenever the wife walked away, they discussed how pathetic she was for staying with him and instant smiles reappeared when she would return. One of her best-friends was also hooking up with her husband behind her back. What a life!
But YOU said you wanted a party just like theirs! You even argued with your spouse about it because he seemed uninterested, unimpressed and nowhere near enthused. Lol
The moral of my message:
It’s quite alright to fantasize and wonder how things would have been in another space and time BUT be careful!
Please don’t ever compare imaginary, outside sources to a person who has given you their all and loved you for years.
Your life is better than you think.
“Open your eyes and have a Looksie-doo!”
